Fall Transition Outfit No. 1 and a Rare Compliment

When you’re a mom of teens, compliments from them to you do not come fast and furious. At least not in my household. My teens seem to be mainly concerned about themselves. I don’t say that to be insulting or critical; it’s just a fact of life in Teen World. But last week, I received a compliment from one of my boys and it’s one of those moments that will stay with me forever.

Before my son Hunter had his knee surgery in July, he went on a hike with some of his friends. He said they were complaining about their troubled relationships with their mothers. I think at one point they looked at him to add some validation to their diatribes and he said, “Honestly guys, I don’t have that type of relationship with my mom. She is actually a lot of fun and I like being around her.”

Say What?

I asked him if he really said that or was he telling me he said that just to make me feel good. He assured me that he said that.

Wow. I know I felt my eyes well up with tears but I didn’t want him to see that because you, know, teens don’t want to be caught hanging with their crying mom. So I turned around quickly, grabbed that moment and locked it away till later.

And when it was later, I couldn’t stop thinking about what he said. Remember Sally Field at the Oscars (yes, I’m that old). You like me! You really like me! I was Sally Field in all her tearful glory. My son actually liked me and he wasn’t afraid to tell his friends. I’m welling up again.

Parent Performance Evaluations?

In a blended family of step-kids and step-parents, the blending takes time. Even when the blender is going really strong, things don’t always come out as smoothly as we’d like. But my husband and I try our hardest to ensure that each one of our kids knows that we love him no matter what.

Sometimes, it is hard to know how we’re doing. At work, most people are evaluated on their performance. I always knew I did well based on my boss’ feedback, the scores in my evaluation and subsequent raise. But parents don’t receive a performance evaluation (unless you base it on the number of rolled eyes, grunts and time spent in their bedrooms as feedback from teens), and we certainly don’t receive a raise from our kids. Sometimes it feels like we’re just grasping in the dark. But then you hear a compliment from your kid masked in a story about an afternoon out with friends, and all I can say is that I’ll take that over a raise any day.

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How To Wear Leggings and Denim in the Summer

As a mom who works part-time from home with a long to-do list, it can be easy to succumb to the pajama uniform for the day. I will usually start working as soon as my husband and kids leave the house in the mornings and the next thing I know, it’s almost lunchtime! And. I’m. Still. In. My. Pajamas. Not a good look during daylight hours.

Although I am not a huge fan of leggings, I would be lying to you if I said my closet didn’t include a few sets of both ankle leggings for cooler months and capris leggings for spring and summer. I’ll admit, not only are they comfortable, but they make figuring out what to wear sooooo easy! Continue reading “How To Wear Leggings and Denim in the Summer”

Easy Tank Dress for a Summer Concert

My 14-year-old son, Chase, has been taking guitar lessons since he was in 3rd grade. He started with my older son, Hunter, but Hunter has moved on to other interests. Chase, on the other hand, has stayed with his lessons and has improved considerably over this last year. I never thought that he would be interested in anything more than lessons but a few weeks ago he asked if he could play at an open mic night somewhere. Surprised, I asked him if he was sure, and when he said yes, I contacted the owner of a restaurant that we visit quite a bit and asked about him playing at her open mic night. Chase was pretty subdued the whole week leading up to his performance. I, on the other hand, was a nervous wreck! A huge storm with thunder, lightening and strong winds had roared in just a few minutes before the open mic started and all the patrons on the restaurant’s deck ran inside. The power even flickered a few times. Continue reading “Easy Tank Dress for a Summer Concert”

Enjoying the Old Faithfuls In Your Closet

I’m so fortunate to live in a part of Virginia that is easily accessible to so many attractions: the beach is about three hours away; the mountains are a two-hour drive; our nation’s capital is 45 miles north; and Richmond, Virginia’s capital, is about a 30-minute drive south. Continue reading “Enjoying the Old Faithfuls In Your Closet”